November 22nd, 2006
|02:48 pm - Thanksgiving and festivals|
Seminary is the last occasion most students will have to fret about the perils of excessive clergy power.
-"Relocating The Clergy Ego" by Dan Hotchkiss
Why is it that each Thanksgiving recently, the first person to say "Happy Thanksgiving" to me is not an American?
Last year, it was a nice Austrian waitress who served me Hungarian goulash (as we sat under Mernunnos, a weird antlered mermaid) in a restaurant in Salzburg at Walking With Fire.
This year, it was a lovely girl with a thick accent from Mexico City who happened into my office. She was one of those girls who can just. . . light up the room. I love it when they're my customers, and moreso when they're nice and wish me a good holiday.
Granted, about twenty minutes ago an angry (American) customer told someone on the phone that I was personally responsible for Thanksgiving not occurring this year, but I'm going to go out on a limb and say that doesn't count.
Today, it seems, has been a day to encounter beauty. I saw another girl today I may write about.
And I learned something about myself today, too. I may share later.
The workshop I'd like to offer on next year's festival circuit?
"Things No One Tells You About Being Clergy"
I've only been clergy for two and a half months, and I can already speak for an hour on this topic.
Now, back to work: it's almost time for a four-day weekend away from everyone. I love the holidays. . . Everyone finally leaves me alone :)
And I have a penny with a starfish on it in my pocket. . .
Current Location: Southeast of Disorder
Current Mood: amused
Current Music: "Domino College", -JB
|Date:||November 22nd, 2006 08:22 pm (UTC)|| |
"Things No One Tells You About Being Clergy"
What kinds of things would you include in this workshop?
|Date:||November 22nd, 2006 08:49 pm (UTC)|| |
Well, things are still forming, but some examples:
- The constant "on call" status you end up in, like it or not.
- The fact that it's more work after ordination than before.
- The effects it has on relationships, both friendly and intimate.
- The standards people hold you to and that you find yourself holding yourself to.
- The way prayer, something clergy is supposed to be good at, has a tendency to slip away if it's not carefully watched and focused on.
- The fact that you actually do feel different, even if you think you won't.
- etc.etc.etc :)
That sort of stuff.
|Date:||November 22nd, 2006 09:02 pm (UTC)|| |
That would make a great workshop. :)
|Date:||November 22nd, 2006 09:17 pm (UTC)|| |
I hope so. It's stuff I wish I would have heard before I started on this. Not that it would have deterred me, but it would have been nice to get a heads up, you know?
|Date:||November 22nd, 2006 09:30 pm (UTC)|| |
I was clergy for a couple of years before I designed an eclectic clergy program. Because it was eclectic, it didn't focus on a particular path....but I put a lot of 'it's going to be hard work once you accept that title of clergy. There are expectations involved with that title.'
I think it's very important to have that as part of a clergy program. Because it sure wasn't in the one I went through either. ;)
So, a workshop like you are thinking of......I see as a very valuable one.
Why do you always mention "pretty girls" Why not an ugly girl with pretty eyes, or even an ordinary girl with a pretty mind?
Or maybe I'm just having one of THOSE days....
I never said she was pretty. I said that she lit up the room and was beautiful :)
|Date:||November 22nd, 2006 10:16 pm (UTC)|| |
Maybe they're all pretty.
I certainly can't recall ever meeting a woman that I didn't find some beauty in. . . In fact, I'd go so far as to say I usually see what's beautiful before I see what's not.
Which is probably the central reason I see so many and write about them all the time.
oooohhh- ok, I can sort of go with that- you at least get an A for effort- it's a good line, regardless...
They've all got something pretty about them, right? Besides, how would it sound if someone said, "I just met this really ugly girl with nice eyes"? :)
The reverse has a flamingo and a swordfish. And a ship!
Dude, this penny rocks.
Damnit NIck, why do you have to relate everything aquatic to Cth***?! There are other things in the ocean BESIDES tentacled monsters that are completely unaffiliated. Like dolphins. And sea turtles. Especially sea turtles.
Well, yes. Everyone needs minions, so of course there are other things in the sea.
What they don't tell you about being clergy--
On that note...
I had a university professor once who was also a rabbi. He noted how robotic and emotionless his prayer recitations became after becoming clergy, as opposed to the heart-felt prayers before he became clergy. Then he said (paraphrase), "When you answer the call to serve, you may be called to give up the things that made you answer the call in the first place."
Actually, that's one of the most common things for clergypersons to say: when they get busy, prayer, the thing that they know they should be doing more when they get busy or stressed, is the first thing to go.
One pastor put it like this:
"I’ve read somewhere that the church will actually reward you for doing anything else but praying . . . You need to be doing stuff . . . But, if you’re not going to get fried as a rector, it has to be there. It’s spiritual work, and it’s the hard part. And, it’s usually what gets squeezed out first."
But the best advice came from another priest:
"if you don’t feel like it, it’s probably even more important"