April 30th, 2008
|10:16 am - Ghosti and comics|
I often refer to the concept of *ghosti as being something like a close friendship where you and your friend go out to dinner, alternating who pays. Eventually, you both forget who bought the last meal, and one of you just sort of offers to pick up the check on the very basic understanding that it will really all even out in the end.
The relationship then sort of dissolves into a series of, "Whose turn is it?" questions followed by, "I don't care; I'll get it this time," answers; or else the meal becomes a pretext for inviting the other person out, saying, "Let's go out to eat, since it's my turn anyway," when both parties know that it's not actually that person's turn.
Recognition of relationship, followed by understanding that the relationship is deep enough that it was already even before the other person asked the question. That's really what ghosti is to me.
Well, for future reference, it may work like the above, but ghosti doesn't work like this.
Current Location: Southeast of Disorder
Current Mood: amused
Current Music: "One Particular Harbor", -JB
I have a few relationships like that---where no one cares who pays, we just want to be together. :)
'Seinfeld' had an episode where Jerry receives a suit for a dinner. Except the other guy keeps extending the definiton of dinner. Not *ghosti. But then again, 'Seinfeld' never advocated anything like that.
yeah, that character is more like the other word to come from *ghosti--hostile.
|Date:||April 30th, 2008 04:48 pm (UTC)|| |
Thank you for the reminder. I keep forgetting it goes both ways in the giving and recieving.