May 19th, 2004
|10:39 am - An amusing revisitation|
I decided to re-visit this meme, though after this weekend and next, things will change again. I will, most likely, have a much higher "slut" index by the time I get back from Wellspring, mostly because I will have met, and possibly hugged, at least 10-15 more people between Wellspring and my short jaunt to Kansas City.
Current Mood: apathetic
Current Music: "Kick It In Second Wind", -JB
I believe you mentioned to me once you don't do hugs. What? You just trying to get away from my evil cooties?
Wow. I wonder what the origin of that word is. . .
Oh! Cooties are real critters! They're lice! Apparently, the word derives from the Malay kutu! I love my dictionary. . .
Haha. I don't believe in *pushing* hugs on people. Some people don't like them. Of course, when you run into another person like this, that causes an awkward moment when you're not sure if you should hug or not.
But I don't mind hugs. So long as the person isn't trying to cop a feel, isn't naked, and isn't sweaty and disgusting.
So I guess, yeah, at most Pagan festivals, I don't like hugs :)
Well, I'm not sweaty and disgusting. I sure as hell won't be naked. As for the copping a feel..... yeah, I won't be trying that either. And since I am a particular person and will only hug a very select group of people, that limits the cooties I spread. That makes me a perfect hugging candidate!
That makes me a perfect hugging candidate!
Don't say that too loud! People might start seeking you out! And they might be sweaty and disgusting, or naked!
I'd be afraid m3ch
would sit on me if I tried to hug you :)
I have become very good at avoiding hugs... I try to have a baby in my arms when meeting people and I can hide behind m3ch
if need be (being small has it's advantages... reaching the top shelves is not one of them!).
He'll probably just smile at any hugging and then glare inside.
I envision you running around m3ch
, him with the kid in his arms, and some fat, ugly, naked guy chasing you, arms extended, a la
Looney Tunes or something.
I'm laughing at the image :)
I'm picturing Benny Hill... and then me turning around with a golf club and putting it to the guy's head. Muhahahahahahaha!
Yes, Benny Hill would be a better image :) You're very right :)
I find the best thing to do is ASK - May I have a hug? If the person shies away, then you don't hug. Most people gratefully just open their arms.
Hehe. I feel more weird asking :) To me, it says, "I'm not sure about myself, so I need to ask if you're going to accept me, and I'll secretly be offended if you say no. . ."
Of course, that's not what *anyone* is saying, but that's what I would hear myself saying in my own head if I asked.
Interesting. I belong to a social organization where there is absolutely NO touching without permission, so asking is always required, and if someone says no, it's not meant personally. I have found it to be refreshing.
On the other hand, I never turn down a hug. :)
I have found in the various paganish gatherings I have attended that no one has ever asked my permission. Before I know it I am descended upon by people I don't know and they're pressing themselves up against me. Due to my size people are also fond of just picking me up and twirling me around too. It freaks me out, to say the least.
Now, if I am allowed a moment to see the person and determine they're not a threat (or just trying to find a way to touch me) I can do great hugs. But, with my social anxiety and extreme shyness I'm wary in social interactions and prefer to hug only those who I am comfortable with.
I preferred the BDSM club approach of "ask before you touch."
Re: That is perfectly weird
Maybe I'm too cute to resist? I can't explain it. I try and give off a "get the hell away from me" vibe... perhaps my inner demon isn't demon-y enough? ;D
|Date:||May 19th, 2004 11:56 am (UTC)|| |
Re: That is perfectly weird
Mental note: Don't walk up to triadruid
and hug before at least saying "hi". . . :)
Interestingly, I think that at Pagan festivals, people just try to hug so that they can cop a feel :) Hotties are in serious danger of this, then.
|Date:||May 19th, 2004 01:02 pm (UTC)|| |
Re: That is perfectly weird
what's the time frame for dinner?
Probably between 3 and 6 PM, with me needing to be at the airport no later than 6 PM. But that's a guess. I'll likely make a call before leaving Downs and see if we can't get an ETA worked out, and a place that's somewhat convenient.
Know anywhere between Topeka, KS, and the airport that's more-or-less sit-down and easy to find/get to/get away from?
*grin* Now I am in at least four of those categories. :)
Do ya think people can guess which four????
Entirely possible, since I think I may have mentioned one or two in a previous post.
|Date:||May 19th, 2004 10:47 am (UTC)|| |
Re: Helpful, us...
That'll send it skyrocketing :) Awesome :)
I think you should. :) It's an amusing exercise, if nothing else, and no one except the people you did it with will know who you did what with :)
|Date:||May 20th, 2004 11:11 am (UTC)|| |
Dunno, I think it's kinda fun to try to figure out each of the people represented in some of the lower-numbered categories.... somewhat revelatory, if some of my guesses are right. ;-)
I think the trick is to make sure certain people are not on your friends list. I'm assuming, for example, that your girlfriend isn't on LJ. For me it helps that none of of ex-girlfriends, AFAIK, are on LJ, though it doen't help that my wife is now on.
|Date:||May 20th, 2004 11:31 am (UTC)|| |
Re: Nobody knows?
That's very true. But with most of my friends, I don't have any idea how they relate to people on their f-list.
Good to know someone's trying to figure out who I'm talking about when :)
The great thing about this is that even among friends, you can feel slightly anonymous. I'd be very ineterested to hear your guesses :)
whoa, mine said that I was a dirty girl who did dirty dirty things with 2.9% of people! How can you have 2.9% of a group? Body parts...? LOL
They should make one that's not "have you ever" but "would you want to..."
|Date:||May 20th, 2004 11:14 am (UTC)|| |
Would you want to
"Would you want to" could be fun, but potentially even more dangerous.