August 8th, 2005
|08:13 am - Party last weekend, and being single again|
The party this past weekend went well. All told, Tina's side equaled out my side nicely, and there was enough rum to go around (which is the measure of any good party). I couldn't invite everyone I know (they won't all fit in my house, and besides, my in-town friend circles are quite a bit larger than Tina's: after sending out twice as many invitations as she did, any more would have been rather unbecoming, and several never went out because I don't have addresses), but a lot of people made it and I was glad to see some that I haven't seen in a long time.
Two hours before the party, though, crisis struck: the plumbing was more than a little backed up upstairs, and the kitchen sink had emptied out into Tina's bathtub (creating an interesting and amusingly strange sort of vegetable soup in the tub). I called Brian up, and the conversation went kinda like this:
me: Hey, how's it going? Wanna come over and start drinking early?
him: Actually, Faith was going to bring me.
me: Well, I have a bit of a plumbing emergency. The sink is backed up into the shower. I need help. I can promise beer.
him: Well, okay. Come pick me up. Let me shower and change.
Brian's been quite good to me, really. He's as dependable and as good a friend as anyone could hope to have. He may have his vices, but I will never be able to speak highly enough of him. I picked him up, stopped at Lowes to get some tools, then drove over to my place to get to work. We got most of the work done just as people began arriving (fortunately, everyone decided to be annoyingly fashionably late. . . Thanks for that), and I spent most of the rest of the evening getting Brian beers from the fridge.
As various small things went wrong after that, Tina kept asking me if I'd invited Eris to the party. I'm amused that she seems to grasp my relationship with that Goddess so well. She even treated the possibility like I did: she was good humoured and laughed a bit about it. When Eris shows up, you can't do much but smile and take your lumps, you know.
After we'd cleared everyone out around 2 AM, gotten dishes washed around 3 AM, and gotten ourselves ready for bed, I sat down with Tina in the living room. I took her hand in mine and I kissed it, and said, "Thank you. That was a great party, and a great idea. You can break up with me any day." And I meant it. There's no hurt, no pain. Just a good friend and someone who has made me incredibly happy for over seven years. None of this means I'm over her, and I'm not sure that will ever happen, but that's a chapter of my life that's closed. I intend to savor that chapter for a while before moving onto the next one, though. It was too beautiful to be forgotten.
As I sit here now, I'm not thinking about her as my ex-girlfriend. I'm thinking about her as my friend, and I hope that she stays my friend for a long time to come. I think she did right when she told me that our relationship needed to be redefined.
Sunday I spent mostly sleeping from the late party the night before, and then finally got off my ass and finished out the plumbing job while watching Dune and typing up a few short essays on various items. Well, I hope the plumbing job is finished. I think I have the water moving, but really, only time will tell (as it will with all things, it seems).
As I was working on the plumbing, though, I was snacking on various leftovers from the party. One of the things I grabbed was a pair of fortune cookies, fortunes still intact. I pulled them open and read each one, and was surprised to find that both contained the same fortune:
"FORTUNE COOKIE SAYS: DON'T LOOK BACK ALWAYS LOOK AHEAD"
Sometimes, the Gods speak to us in strange ways. Still, I think I'll take my time remembering the past. I already know the future looks bright and cheery, but I don't want to forget the past, either.
Current Mood: amused
Current Music: "Margaritaville", -JB
Your icon is making me smile, too! Its cuteness is shining!
I'm sorry things came to an end with such a wonderful partner. It sounds like the two of handled it so much better than it is handled with most people. I wish you luck with this next stage.
Tina kept asking me if I'd invited Eris to the party.
Hmm, now I have to write an essay. Bollocks, I have to go to class. Later, then.
No! Essay first, class if you finish on time!
Wow. On the one hand, I'm really sorry. On the other hand, you're handling this a lot better than I would have.
Um, yeah, I'm back. Long story, maybe I'll post it in my lj.
Glad to see you back. As I mentioned, I was a bit worried about you.
I am able to handle it well because she is. That's really the biggest factor. We have mutually agreed to handle it well.
Sometimes, things are just right, eh? I'm glad this is.
hey sorry a bit off topic....but was wondering could I put you down as a contact for the ADF? I am posting links to Druid pages, and well I used the main one, but if they are on lj and have specific questions....who better to refer them to than you? grin....let me know...please thanks.
Erm, sure thing :) My website is linked off the main site, anyway, so in exploring ADF, people are likely to come to me eventually, anyway.
i am glad to see that you haven't jumped from single into "fuck the world" bitter mode.
then again Green, you tend to have to much class for thaty type of thing.
I dunno if it's class. It's more a function of my paradigm. :)
|Date:||August 8th, 2005 05:34 pm (UTC)|| |
I'm glad that everything ended so amicably for you. That's a whole lot better than my previous relationships, but then again those weren't exactly the healthiest of relationships. Eh, c'est al vie, n'est-ce pas?
Seriously, though, I'm glad everything seems to be working out okay.
I think that's key: this was a very healthy relationship. I'm proud to have been in love with her. I got nothing to be ashamed of, with the exception of not being around enough for her. The breakup was, in the end, my fault, but the fact that we still have a relationship (if slightly different) is very important to me.
You know, you're inspiring me to reconsider some recent events & bury the hatchet with a certain person, at least as much as I can. I've had enough pain in life to keep holding to relatively minor ones. How exactly I'll go about burying said hatchet, I'm not entirely sure yet. But I'll figure something out. :)
Just don't bury said hatchet *in* him. With is fine. In is not.
Tina sounds like a great person. If things have to end, I can't think of a better way than in a mutual friendship full of respect and caring.
She is a great person. She'll get a good letter of recommendation to present to her next boyfriend if she requires it.
Cookie Omen, Readin' the
sometimes the best messages involve dessert, thankfully.
I have received the same fortune twice, on the same date (but, the 2nd time was a year later, just to clarify).
Then there was the time the fortune said something like "the man across from you is an ass" at the same time the guy quoted something inane from that donkey in shrek. I decided it was time to have a ragin' case of "take me home, right now"
|Date:||August 8th, 2005 08:49 pm (UTC)|| |
Re: Cookie Omen, Readin' the
Oh, I have to agree.
I'm glad the proper response was in the cookies for you :)
Rob and I were disappointed that we couldn't make it to Columbus for the party. And I'm very happy that you and Tina are on such good terms. Glad the party went well.
Well, it's nice to know that people are still capable of having a party even without me. I was a bit worried it wouldn't be any fun, what with all you old boring folks drinking milk and talking about retirement and CNN over Parcheeshi and such like that. But, you managed to coordinate a web of lies about rums and hot tubs very nicely, to which I tip my hat. Maybe this once I'll give you the luxury of believing that there was indeed an acceptable party and you did indeed have fun. ;)
I believe that pictures are in the works as proof.
Hope you and Tina are well, and that you got the house back in order (I swear I didn't go anywhere near that burning lantern - the thing jumped out of nowhere and tried to attack me!). Glad to have met the folks that were there, and sorry to have missed the ones who weren't.
I see you have been seduced by the dark side. I approve of this.