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May 19th, 2006


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05:04 pm - Questions to ask and answer
Taken from latexpussy's lj, here's a bit of a quiz:

Ask me one question for each topic (in depth or simple) and I will do the same for you.

1. Travel
2. Religion
3. Family
4. Love
5. Sex
6. Hobbies
7. Pets
8. Friendship
9. Literature
10. Movies
11. Home town
12. Physical Appearance
13. Volunteer Work
14. Life Goals
15. The World

My answers to her questions can be found in this entry.
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From:whitmanschild
Date:May 22nd, 2006 01:24 am (UTC)
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15. when you get right down to it, how much does the origin of the world matter?

Nada. I mean, what the hell are you going to do about it?


Perhaps the best answer to this question ever. :D
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1. Travel -- Do you think that the understanding of the foundational sameness of humanity in spite of cultural and linguistic decoration that you've acquired via your global traveling can be communicated to any large degree to someone who hasn't been abroad? What do you see as a primary obstacle to sharing those experiences with someone else?

2. Religion -- Like you, although I don't follow the spiritual path or religious practices of my parents, I don't regret being raised in a Christian church, and similarly value the perspective that upbringing lends me. What element of the Christianity you were raised in do you find most analogous to something in your current spiritual practice, and is there anything from that old Christianity that you wish you could bring to your Pagan traditions, but find incompatible?

3. Family -- Is there a point in your friendships with people where it is possible for someone to BECOME you family (short of marriage), or do you hold these things as two fundamentally seperate entities (via blood- and law-authority)?

4. Love -- In plenty of other languages, there are many different degrees and types of feeling that we lump together as "love" in English. If you were to create new words to replace that one word in English that would immediately be adopted and used by everyone, how many would you make and how would they be used?

5. Sex -- You've commented that sex isn't a necessary thing for your life, and in some cases, the lack of it looks pretty desireable. I, on the other hand, am pretty much the opposite on that score. Do you think the energies that would normally be reserved for your libido get channelled into other parts of your personality, and if so, where does all that drive go?

6. Hobbies -- What hobbies did you have as a child, but no longer participate in?

7. Pets -- When you talk to them, do you talk to your cats primarily in English or in cat-speak?

8. Friendship -- Have you ever had your friendship betrayed in a major fashion? If so, by whom and how?

9. Literature -- So we've established that you hated Wuthering Heights. That aside, if you had to choose one character from that novel to have dinner and conversation with, who would it be? Where/what would you eat and what would you talk about?

10. Movies -- What was the last movie you saw that you thought to yourself, "Man, I wish I could have those two hours of my life back," or something similar?

11. Home town -- In the descriptions of all of your moving around, you've referred to Owensboro as a hell of sorts. What were the top three things that made you hate Owensboro so much?

12. Physical Appearance -- What point of physical hygiene are you the most fanatical about, and which the most lax?

13. Volunteer Work -- Have you had a volunteer experience that you later regretted, even partially?

14. Life Goals -- I don't really set very many long-term goals for myself other than general happiness, and you've said similar things. Hypothetically, though, what one goal would you set for yourself if you knew with absolute certainty that you could and would achieve it before you die?

15. The World -- Assuming that all places are possible, where in the world would you like your physical remains to be put when you die?
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From:chronarchy
Date:May 22nd, 2006 04:56 am (UTC)
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1. Travel -- Do you think that the understanding of the foundational sameness of humanity in spite of cultural and linguistic decoration that you've acquired via your global traveling can be communicated to any large degree to someone who hasn't been abroad? What do you see as a primary obstacle to sharing those experiences with someone else?

I don't know. I think that the primary obstacle would be that people can't see past that language barrier. It's a conceptual barrier. There's also the fact that people are becoming more and more afraid of the world outside: Americans fear being kidnapped when they go abroad, or becoming targets. They think that every person in France hates our guts because France won't support our war with Iraq (and let's not talk about those dirty Muslims who are just being ungrateful!). Our perception seems to be warped in a lot of frightening ways.

2. Religion -- Like you, although I don't follow the spiritual path or religious practices of my parents, I don't regret being raised in a Christian church, and similarly value the perspective that upbringing lends me. What element of the Christianity you were raised in do you find most analogous to something in your current spiritual practice, and is there anything from that old Christianity that you wish you could bring to your Pagan traditions, but find incompatible?

Adoration. I was raised in a religion where God was not vengeful or angry. He was loving and wonderful. He created us because he loved us, and any sort of "tough love" we got was presented like a kid who brought home a bad report card: we were spanked out of love so that we'd do better, not in punishment because we'd done poorly.

The way I see my deities is similar, really. I adore them and they love me. They don't lash out in vengance or anger. Sure, they test me, but it's to develop the best in me, to bring out things that I don't even know that I have. They continually make me stronger, more able to help those around me. I never heard a "fire and brimstone" service until we started testing out churches in Chicago, where I saw my first message of hate from the pulpit. There was some sort of "morality play" in the service, where a woman was shown the consequences of abortion. We never returned.

Most recently, I went to a local church, and I found that I was in the same sort of company as the church I grew up in, and it felt really good to be there. I felt that people there adored their God. They weren't afraid of Him. And that made me feel good.

I'm not sure that there's anything that I really liked that I have ever considered "incompatible". I thought that maybe the concept of having a single deity might be, when I first read this question, but then I realized that not only have I never had any issue deciding who to address a prayer to, but I also sometimes work in a monotheistic paradigm: There is no Goddess but Goddess, and Her name is Eris. I don't find any disconnect with my usual polytheism here, to be honest, though I sometimes feel I should.

I sometimes attend church services, I admit, to pick up pointers from the preachers there. They have big churches for a reason: charisma and theatre are a part of religion, too, even though we don't like to talk about them.

3. Family -- Is there a point in your friendships with people where it is possible for someone to BECOME you family (short of marriage), or do you hold these things as two fundamentally seperate entities (via blood- and law-authority)?

Yes, there is a point where they become family. I have a number of people I consider family who aren't related to me in any way. Hell, I have a nephew and two nieces now, apparently (I'm "Uncle Mike" to them all) and I'm not related by blood or marriage to any of them, but I'd do anything for them.
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From:chronarchy
Date:May 22nd, 2006 05:00 am (UTC)
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4. Love -- In plenty of other languages, there are many different degrees and types of feeling that we lump together as "love" in English. If you were to create new words to replace that one word in English that would immediately be adopted and used by everyone, how many would you make and how would they be used?

There's love as a verb and a noun. It becomes an adverb with an -ly. We already use it in lots of differnet ways. But if you're talking about making it into a system of levels, I dunno. I think I would prefer if we all gave love, at whatever level we may feel it, the same respect. I love my brother as I love my wife as I love my mistress as I love my friend.

My, how amusingly complicated *that* would be. As it stands, you love your brother because he's family, and you love your wife because you're married to her, but these are different loves. You fuck your mistress, and you are simply friends with your friend.

I'm not sure that all those things are different, though.

5. Sex -- You've commented that sex isn't a necessary thing for your life, and in some cases, the lack of it looks pretty desireable. I, on the other hand, am pretty much the opposite on that score. Do you think the energies that would normally be reserved for your libido get channelled into other parts of your personality, and if so, where does all that drive go?

Well, there's an amusing disconnect there. For all that I can honestly say that sex is not an important factor in a relationship, it's not something that I need on a daily basis, it's more that I've learned that I don't need to have it in my relationships to make them incredibly worthwhile.

I'm always interested in sex, sexuality, and generally hot & sexy activity (hell, I'm male: I'm always ready to go), but I don't think that it belongs as central to any relationship, and I can work in a relationship that is entirely sexless and be happy. Sex would, I imagine, simply add another layer to the relationship which could be either very good, or very bad :)

While on the one hand I seem disinterested and on the other you seem overly intersted, those hands can always be put to better use. *grins*

6. Hobbies -- What hobbies did you have as a child, but no longer participate in?

I played a lot of chess in late high school, but that trickled off when I got to college. There just aren't enough women in the chess clubs, you know. I also liked to read a lot of fantasy novels, and now I don't buy them anymore. I used to create D&D characters just to have something to do, but I've never bothered to learn the 3rd Edition rules, so I no longer do that.
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From:chronarchy
Date:May 22nd, 2006 05:08 am (UTC)
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7. Pets -- When you talk to them, do you talk to your cats primarily in English or in cat-speak?

It's sort of a cat-speak/English pidgin, really. I imagine that it's rather comical to hear me converse with Alex, for instance, whose voice is more squeak than meow :)

8. Friendship -- Have you ever had your friendship betrayed in a major fashion? If so, by whom and how?

Perhaps once, but it was tied up in a relationship, so the feeling of betrayal was tied up tightly in the emotional rollercoaster that is a girl who no longer wants to talk to you that you really like. One day, we were getting to that point of boyfriend/girlfriend, the next she just completely stopped talking to me, and she was a bitch about it.

Out of all the people I have known in my life, she is the only person that I would honestly say I never want to see again.

No one has ever betrayed my friendship, that I can recall. She betrayed far more than my friendship, and I think that I tied it in deeper to the other things that were betrayed. Had we just been friends, it wouldn't have mattered, nor would I have felt betrayed.

9. Literature -- So we've established that you hated Wuthering Heights. That aside, if you had to choose one character from that novel to have dinner and conversation with, who would it be? Where/what would you eat and what would you talk about?

Haha. Is my hatred of that novel sufficiently in evidence? I also suspect that my love of Don't Stop the Carnival and the character Norman Paperman is also well noted. But I wouldn't want dinner with Norman, if I could pick only one (though it might be nice to sit at his table at Sardi's). Dinner, for me, would have to be with James Bond. Of course, I'd probably end up poisoned or shot (as so many secondary characters do), but I can't help but think it would be the most exciting dinner I'd ever had.

10. Movies -- What was the last movie you saw that you thought to yourself, "Man, I wish I could have those two hours of my life back," or something similar?

You know, it was so bad, I don't remember what it was. I actually saw it on a 50 cent night at the local dollar theatre, and I was sorely tempted to request my 50 cents back. I wish I could remember something about it, but I think I blocked it out of my mind.
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From:chronarchy
Date:May 22nd, 2006 05:11 am (UTC)
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11. Home town -- In the descriptions of all of your moving around, you've referred to Owensboro as a hell of sorts. What were the top three things that made you hate Owensboro so much?

One of the things to remember is that a lot of the things I've written about Owensboro were written a very long time ago. The bit on the Bio page of my website was actually mostly written my freshman year of college, making it nearly ten years old at this point. So some of it is outdated in terms of how I view it.

I don't believe it was Owensboro itself. Honestly, I have mostly fond memories of the place. The issue came that I had lived there for 8 years, over half my life and all my formative years. All my friends were there, and I knew what changing schools meant.

So I learned to like the idea. I saw Chicago as an opportunity rather than a potential problem. And the more I looked at Chicago, the brighter it became, and the darker Owensboro became in contrast. To add to this, the perception I had of Owensboro, from those around me, was of a place where nothing went right, the educational system was horrible, and there was no future.

There was also a marked jump in my GPA when I left Kentucky. I was, actually, happier in Chicago. I made new friends quickly, I got an occasional job, and the women were not only hotter, but with more of them around, they were also attainable (at least, in my mind's eye. . . I still only ever asked one out).

So really, I can't name three things that caused me to hate Owensboro. I'm not sure that it had anything, actually, to do with the city itself: it has much more to do with comparison. I expect, however, that it's an unfair comparison.

(Though now that I think about it, O'boro did contribute to Tina breaking up with me. . . someone broke into my car while I was down there with her and made off with her purse. I don't know if I could explain exactly how that affected our relationship, but I expect it was entirely negative.)

12. Physical Appearance -- What point of physical hygiene are you the most fanatical about, and which the most lax?

I'm most fanatical about showering, and least about taking my contacts out in a timely manner (though I still take my contacts out 90% of nights).

13. Volunteer Work -- Have you had a volunteer experience that you later regretted, even partially?

I have, in some cases. Either I found out that the effort raised money for something I didn't support, or that something went wrong and I completely had the wool pulled over my eyes. But then, if one person who needed it got help, then I don't think that I would fully regret anything I did.

14. Life Goals -- I don't really set very many long-term goals for myself other than general happiness, and you've said similar things. Hypothetically, though, what one goal would you set for yourself if you knew with absolute certainty that you could and would achieve it before you die?

My best goal there would be to walk all the places I want to walk with the person with whom I wish to walk them. But even a normal lifetime doesn't have that sort of span. Instead, I'll settle for at least the AT with latexpussy and possibly perlgirlju who also expressed an interest, and a hike to the headwaters of the Ganges with latexpussy. The Sahara Race, while it sounds like a blast, I'm not sold on yet (but I'm getting there).

15. The World -- Assuming that all places are possible, where in the world would you like your physical remains to be put when you die?

Now that I think about it, there's this nifty little cemetary outside of Eris, Ohio, that would be a lot of fun. In that cemetary, there's a funeral marker for a guy named "Dude" that I might like to hang out with. I'm not so sure that I'd be all about having my physical remains interred, though. I might be more interested in cremation and scattering. But I don't think much about what gets done with me after the funeral, to be perfectly honest.
From:perlgirlju
Date:May 22nd, 2006 01:37 pm (UTC)
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I'm still interested in the AT. With you, or with someone else, someday I'll do it.
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From:chronarchy
Date:May 22nd, 2006 03:06 pm (UTC)
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*nods* I figured you were still interested. We just hadn't chatted about it since. . . I think for two years, at Wellspring last.
From:perlgirlju
Date:May 22nd, 2006 03:10 pm (UTC)
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You can pretty much always count on me being interested in something like that. The only reason I don't get out hiking and such more often is available time as opposed to a lack of interest.

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