July 10th, 2006
|11:58 am - Trying to get back, baby. Back to where we were.|
I've been hearing from lots of places, quite honestly, that I'm just not keeping up my end of the "friendship" bargains I have with lots of people. I haven't been hanging out with them, or relaxing with them, or sending them email. I've been "short" in my responses, sometimes ignored entire emails, and often missed events like parties and dinners that I've tried to get to.
And I wish I could fix it.
But right now, I'm more busy than I've been in a long time. Far, far more busy. Work is harder, and so is play. My research has taken on a life of its own, and I've been sucked into it. I'm at a point now where things like reading Latin are getting a bit easier, and to put that on hold will undo a lot of work I've done. I'm also out of money, entirely, at the moment, and am living about a quarter paycheck behind, so getting places (and managing to eat) have taken a back seat in most cases.
So I suppose what this entry is about is, "Hey, I love you guys. Just please don't be offended or think I'm avoiding you. It's just not an easy life right now. But I'll be back. Things will get better: they always do."
Just be patient with me, please.
Current Location: Southeast of Disorder
Current Mood: busy
Current Music: "Knees of My Heart", -JB
What?!? Please don't tell me somebody actually tried to guilt you with a line like that. In short, friends -- *true* friends -- won't do that. If somebody actually used that line, they're just being manipulative and merely using you to fulfill their own needs. :/
I think you'll actually find that your real friends enjoy your company and don't begrudge the fact that "real life" gets in the way quite frequently. I've got many friends that I haven't even spoken with in 2-5 years. But I know that if I ever need them, all I have to do is pick up the phone and they'll do anything they can to help me (I know this as fact; I actually had to take one up on it a few years back). That's just how real friends treat each other.
You shouldn't need to ask permission, or make excuses. Go do what you need to do. Those people who really care about you will still be there when you come back 'round again.
Thanks particularly for this post.
And yeah, I've got friends just like those. Haven't heard from you in 5 years but you need help burying a body? Sure, I'll be there as soon as I can find some pants. Earlier if you require, but I'd really like to put on the pants first, and I think you would too.
Well, if it's really a pinch, the guy you're stuffing in the car trunk probably doesn't need pants any longer.
But then there's that whole 'loss of bowel control' thingie when you kick off.
Yeah, I'd say pants are good. Go ahead, take your time; he won't start to stiffen up for another half-hour or so...
I've jettisoned some "high maintenance" friends from my life -- the kind who would get mad because they've apparently counted the days since I called them last and then yelled at me when I went over the limit (not that I was informed of said limit, either). Not to mention, they didn't call ME either during that time.
I don't get that and you're right, it's not true friendship.