January 2nd, 2004
|02:06 pm - Weird late-night musings|
Oh, the strange things you think of when touching up paint in the wee hours of the morning. . .
The thought that consumed me last night was thus:
"I should make a button for Pagan festivals. It should say: 'I'm taken'.
No, it should really say:
'I enjoy fine conversation and good flirting. I like to have fun and to talk about all sorts of stuff. Just remember: if I'm flirting, I don't mean it; if I'm drinking you can't get me drunk enough; if I'm staring at you, I probably think you're hot, but I'm not going to do anything about it and you can't make me. I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. Yes, that also means I'm straight. In short: if you're looking to get laid, you're wasting your time.'
But that would be too small to read. So it should probably say:
'I'm taken, I flirt, I mean nothing by it. Find someone else to get you off.'
If nothing else, it'd make a great conversation starter!"
I don't know why I thought about this last night. Maybe it was the paint fumes?
Oh, and I think I'll have a twister mat ready for use at Wellspring. . . a large one. . . One that Groves could challenge other Groves on. I already have the canvas.
I slept through the ball dropping in NYC on NYE. I make it a point to sleep through it every year, actually. I find the idea somewhat revolting for some reason.
Brian is coming over tonight to watch the Fiesta Bowl. Yes, I purchased enough beer for him to get properly drunk, win or lose. Yes, I sold out and purchased Tostitos chips and salsa. No, I don't care.
Anyone who wishes (preferably who knows Brian, Tina, and me) is welcome to join us for the game. I'm grilling steaks, but I think I only have two, so that means you'll be eating cheeseburgers or hotdogs (I believe I have some buns).
Oh, and how could I forget?
I finished painting my room! The only thing left is to do some minor touchups, but that's it. I like it.
Though I might end up having to re-hang drywall in there. We'll see.
My altar is now in the process of going up. I'll post pictures when it's all done.
Probably either in March or late February I'll be putting up the wainscoting. I can't afford it right now, but I will be able to in about a month or two. Maybe the tax refund check will take care of that.
Current Mood: artistic
Current Music: "Changes in Latitudes, Changes in Attitudes", -JB
I need a button like that. I'm poly, Hubby is on the fence, but our marriage is not open and I'm happy with that. I get so tired of being hit on at festivals. Puh-leeze, like I would even thinking about doing anything with most of the people I meet (especially pagans), let alone look at them. Oops, I'm being mean. :P
How about a button with a light switch that reads "Fucking : Off"? ;) Paper bags work too... sometimes. Sometimes they're just kinky.
Yeah for more altar pictures!!
Oh, I like being hit on, I just don't like it when it goes to the level of the girl (or guy, as has sometimes happened) expecting me to suddenly drop my pants and go to town.
Heck, hit on me all you want! I enjoy that!
I don't want women thinking I'm leading them on if they think they're getting signals they really aren't :)
I am never comfortable with being hit on because it is rarely innocent. I find people just talk to me in that manner because they want sex. Ugh. Yuck. Flirting is very fun-- with the right people (as in those who know it is only flirting).
You could get it tattooed on your ass, that way you get the point across and you drop your pants-- it's all win-win. ;)
My Hubby gets the men hitting on him too...
Email's fine, or here. Depending on how public it should be :) You'll find my email on my website
I do understand what you mean.
Here's the skinny:
ADF's Dedicant Program is for member's only. Now, I know that there are a lot of people out there who aren't sure ADF is for them, or they don't want to jump in for fear of the water being too cold or over their head.
What I usually suggest to PG's or Groves that are holding Dedicant Program study groups is that they allow any one who wants to come to about two meetings, take part in the discussion, and then make and informed choice about whether to join ADF or not.
Keep in mind that, according to the website, compassionate memberships are also available to persons who are not currently members of ADF. But they should consider seriously that $15 isn't really that much for a year.
The requirements for the DP, so far as I know, are public (I'll have to check on that). So anyone could work on them. You might also consider keeping discussions of some of the books on the DP list open to the public, as that would be okay.
Just remember: the DP is probably the biggest asset that ADF has to offer, so we can't be giving it out willy-nilly :)
If they want to finish it, they will have to join.
Is wainscoting like molding?
Have fun watching football. I'll either be sleeping or online.
Kinda. It's sort of like half wood paneling. It goes up the walls about 3' and is topped by a stip of molding.
Oh, now I understand what it is. Thanks.
So that's a common problem at pagan festivals?
Neither have I, but there's always a chance that that might happen.
Best to define where you're going before you get there :)
It mainly depends on the level at which you understand one another. For instance, people who know me realize that I like (no, love) to flirt, and will do so with anything on two legs. Of course, they also realize I mean nothing by it.
People who don't know that, assume they're getting somewhere. So the button would be for their benefit, too; not just mine.
After all, if a person is actually *trying* to get laid, I'm a bad target. But if they're looking for some flirtacious fun, I'm pretty good to hit on (or so I like to think).
|Date:||January 2nd, 2004 10:50 pm (UTC)|| |
Yeah, I am never sure what to do about stuff like that either. People flirt with me, and I freeze, because I figure it means they want more. I automatically jump to that conclusion, and the truth is, although I am single and poly, I am really picky about who I take to my bed, in ways not easily explained. And when I am nice, or overly enthusiastic about something, people tend to assume I want more, when I don't. So, what is a good way to get the message across? Maybe a button is best. How about "Flirting is fun in and of itself. Why ruin a good thing?"
That's a great idea. :) Perhaps that's what the button should say, instead :)
how about a button that simply says "NO!". people will have no clue what you are saying no and will become really paranoid. this is the best solution.
I'll get my old green "Just Say No To Drugs" button and wear that. . . It could serve two purposes then: get the women and the potheads off my back.
For some reason, I feel compelled to respond to this....
Probably because of how I happened to meet our dear Mike. Which was at festival- Wellspring, in fact. At the Mead Tasting. I'd had a fair amount to drink & said, "Hey, cute guy! Think I'll offer him some mead..." (Seriously! Than I laughed at him when he told me his name was Mike, because I'd been meeting a lot of guys named Mike). I'd never really done anything like that before (having only recently become single again), wasn't entirely sure what I expected to happen & figured the fact that he didn't immedately run away in terror when I said "Hi" was a pretty good thing. :)
You were really quite sweet about the whole thing, I thought. And you've become a very good, dear friend, which is even cooler. :)
Like , I'm rather picky too.
And, like I mentioned above, I've only recently become single again. My ex-husband & I were together for 9 years & the relationship was not at all open- I didn't even really flirt with other guys. So I'm still in the weird process of figuring out what exactly my bounderies are. I react different ways when hit on depending on who's doing the hitting on & how they're doing it. Too blantent doesn't go well. Not blatent enough & I'm likely to think the guy's just being friendly. If I can tell they're interested but know that I'm not, it gets weird.
Thought you might feel compelled to comment, though it isn't a commentary on you (I assume you know).
You need a badge you can flash if they're interested in you but you're not in them. Something like the FBI badges that you can flip open: "I'm not interested in you" would be all it'd have to say. . .
That way, you wouldn't run guys off with the button :)
I don't know if it's because the Wiccan community here in Denver when I was active nearly 15 yrs ago was made up of old hippies or what, but a few that hit on me were just... icky. I just usually felt very self-conscious because I'm built more like the venus of Willendorf than the Venus De Milo, and the only ones that ever got any "nice" attention were the slender and impressionable newbies that resembled Buffy and her friends. I found it very hypocritical from a community that supposedly worshipped all women as images of the Goddess as beautiful. Reminded me too mich of school. It's a hard thing to mentally get over, but I don't tend to trust a man who's hitting on me.
lemme edit that last comment. I'll flirt a lot, but I have to get past the mental programming of the little voice that says "he must be desperate" if I think he's serious.
Well, *all* guys are desperate. :)
Doesn't mean that you're their last choice. Heck, I was desperate while flirting with my now-girlfriend. And she certainly wasn't my last choice. More like that university that you apply to on the off chance that they'll accidentally put you in the "accepted" pile.
And you know what? I think that's exactly what happened :)
Yeah, most Pagans are icky. It's actually a technical term when applied to Pagans, I think.
Where are you going that you see Buffy look-alikes? I'd like to avoid such places.
Real women have curves. Lots of them. Like an old 68-73 Stingray.
Of course, I'll never turn down the chance to flirt with a slender and impressionable newbie. But then again, I've never turned down the chance to flirt with anyone, I don't think, unless they made me uncomfortable. Including gay men.
ROFL well, you are definitely invited to Denver, then. ;) At least we'll both be aware we're not serious. And I really haven't been around the Wiccan community in years, I got tired of the "my degree is better but secret" crap. I tend to hang out with some local asatru friends, very good people. Plus the working on getting a grove together is slow but steady. I've got 15 people in the online group now, and we're having a camping trip this summer solstice!
Cool! I think a PG should definitely be in Denver. One is needed there.
As for the "Wicca Secret Degree of Grand Poohbah", I know a few of them. In general, I just let them drown in their own misinformation.
ROFL yeah, that's the original reason I left my coven so many years ago. Hmmm, the one who does all the research gets accused of "not knowing that much about the Celts". This from a High priestess that believed the Celts were all peaceful matriarchal farmers. Eejit.
I always liked John Michael Greer's statement that there are too many people who believe that the peaceful Celts were murderously attacked by the Pale Patriarchal Penis People, and up until then had been happy, peaceful people who never had wars or death. . . Stupid revisionist history. . .
Fantastic thread. Hope you don't mind, I finally friended you... triadruid
is my darling
As far as buttons go, I've always been fond of the one that says "YES ...but not with you."
How about "Just Flirting. Fuck Elsewhere."
, "Sorry, not poly."
, or "Straight Monogamous Flirt."
has found a place that makes buttons for cheap...
Not bad ideas at all. :)
Welcome aboard. I've seen your name used from time to time, but haven't had a chance to look at the journal :) Now I can :)